Feb. 17, 2022

Stop Empowering Cancer

     I usually write about a topic each week that is relatable to my most recent episode.  However, this morning, while interacting on Twitter, I came across a post that really weighed on my mind after reading it.  Therefore, I decided to change topics today and discuss a phrase that, honestly, needs to stop being said, and I will give you my reasons why in this blog.  We have all heard it said when someone with cancer gains their angel wings too soon.  Most people probably don't even realize what they are doing when they say it, and think it's what they are supposed to say.  The phrase I am referring to is " lost their battle to cancer."  First, let me put it out there, that my hope is one day no one has to say anything of the sorts, but until then, my hope is people start understanding what that statement does, and removes it from their vocabulary.  Now I know some don't like the word battle either, for a variety of reasons, but today I want to focus on the word "lost."  I know everyone may not agree with some of what I am fixing to say, but these are my thoughts and opinions on the matter.

    The word lost, and how it is used with this phrase, insinuates that somebody or something else won, and in that sense, most relate lost and won to some form of a game or contest.  What our children deal with on a daily basis with this disease, is by far, no game first of all.  Secondly, I don't know about the rest of you all, but I will be damned if I will give cancer the least little bit of empowerment.  It doesn't deserve that, at all, and we need to stop giving it to them by saying this phrase.  We need to stop giving cancer that type of power over us, which is exactly what we do, when we say they "lost their battle to cancer."  Stuart Scott said it best when he said, "When you die, that does not mean that you lose to cancer.  You beat cancer by how you live, why you live and in the manner in which you live."  I honestly don't think it could be said any better, and that right there, is exactly how we all should be looking at it.  The strength and inspiration these children show or showed every day is proof that cancer didn't win, so stop giving it credit for something it didn't do.  If I am being honest, I could go as far as to say by saying that, you devalue the amazing life of that child, because even though you may not mean it this way or see it when you say it, you ultimately are giving victory to cancer.  The child's life, the way they lived, definitely did not give cancer the victory, so why should we do it at the end?

    I personally don't even like saying the word cancer, no more than I have too, because I don't want it to have any credit for anything, and I absolutely refuse to let it think it won anything.  I hate that I have to say anything of the sorts, but I usually refer to it as the precious children gaining their angel wings too soon, or another way to look at it, is cancer didn't win, we just ran out of treatment options, which i saw on social media, as well today.  No matter how you go about it, please in respect to the amazing lives these children lived, and their families, stop empowering cancer, by saying they "lost their battle to cancer."