Jan. 11, 2021

Ep 2- Stay Off Google

One thing we learned really quick, after Neyland's diagnosis, was that searching on Google for answers was probably one of the worst things you can do.  We, like I am sure other families were, wasn't familiar with the situation we were in, and didn't know what to expect.  First thing we did, which seems to be the norm this day and time, was immediately start searching Google for answers.  This was a bad idea, looking back now.  I am not saying there aren't facts on the internet, or useful information, but there are two reasons why I say stay off Google and I wanted to share them with you.

First, no matter what you read, what's the first thing most of us are going to notice?  Well if you are like us, we found good information, but what stood out the most was the negative things that were mentioned like probablity rate of survival or worst case scenario type things.  You know things that are only going to make things worse, and cause you to stress out even more.  For instance, one thing my wife read one time was that one out of five children survive their battles.  Those types of things instantly start putting questions in your mind.  Will he be one of the four that don't?  Will he be the one that does?  As if you don't have enough questions and worries going through your mind, a quick search on Google will easily add more to it.  I can say that now because we learned the lesson the hard way

The second reason is that every diagnosis isn't going to go the same way for each child.  Every child responds differently to the cancers, the treatments, the side effects etc.  We have seen many families taking on the battle against cancer over the years, and none of the are the same.  I couldn't tell you how many times, during this journey, we've been told that this will do this to Neyland, and it never does.  However, it may very well do what they expect to the next child, just like what doesn't effect that child, may effect Neyland.  If any of you are parents just starting this journey, and I could give you any advice, it would be to avoid Google.  We've gotten upset over things we read, only to see it not happen.  I know it's in our human nature to do so, but all I suggest, is that if you must search Google, at least keep in mind that it doesn't necesarilly mean whatever it says will be the case for your child.  Yes they are all possibilities, but none of them are definite.